Revised
excerpt from the “Introduction” to Leftovers
Rejection: the
Red Badge of Resistance
For
those of us with character (êthos), there is an event that recurs in
our lives. It is what Nietzsche calls ones greatest weight (The Gay
Science, Aphorism 341). For me, it is rejection. I was baptized
with rejection when my mother cried that she wanted a girl when I was
born. She told me she shouted to the doctor, “Put him back. Put him
Back.” Dr. Gabbert slapped her across the face
and slapped me across my ass and said, “Emma, you have a
beautiful boy.”
Those
of us with character can’t escape our recurring event. It emerges
from our subconscious and plays with us in dreams. It is a battle
between the self-subconscious and the community collective conscious.
Which one wins determines our progress. Those with strong wills
triumph; those weaker get hooked on drugs, shoplift, or die early
when their bodies just surrender. No matter what we do, we cannot
prevent the eternal recurrence of this event. My event is
rejection and I embrace it. I know of another person who told me
that their recurring event is people coming back to them and saying,
“You know you were right.” It must be quite a burden to be always
right. I have learned to love rejection like a horse
learns to love the whip. Horses feel euphoric when they run; and when
they are near exhaustion and feel their rider's whip they climax.
God's
mistake. Born outside of nature after God's pit stop visit and his
great escape. An anomaly. Quirky. The world would have preferred a
muffled heartbeat at birth or a cut cord to bleed me out. A boy I was
not meant to be. What an inconvenient shouldn't be. And if I would
have been born of a different uncle, I would have been much more
manly, much more army and navy, a three chord country ballad rather
than Bernstein Gershwin symphony combined orchestral. Too complicated
but just as White but still a second to the first born child; an
after thought for my father's side.
I
always thought there was something wrong with me. Something I said.
Something I did. A slip of the tongue. Speaking out of turn. That's
why my extended family, my blood, aunts and uncles,
cousins, don't associate with me. I thought. That must be why
they don't want me. My fault. But really deep down inside they only
think they're better. It's really that simple. If they thought they
had something to gain by associating with me then I wouldn't be able
to get rid of them. They would be up my ass 24/7. But, let's not
over-complicate as Marcus Aurelius would say. Things are what they
are; and God bless you if you can change them. This goes to show
that rejection might have many causes. Nonetheless, rejection still
seems to find me like when your number is skipped over when you're
waiting for lunch meat at the grocery store deli. You say to
yourself, "Don't take it personal."
I
have been plagued by rejection since birth. I wait for it. I know
it’s on its way. It hides in the hedgerow with white eyes. It
always surprises me when it finds me and I limp away like a wounded
animal howling, cursing the earth and myself. It corners me and I
resist. Perhaps, it comes in a letter, a phone call, an email, or in
the first meeting with your new boss. “You weren't my first pick
for this job. I just wanted to let you know.” It comes every
time I write something. It's the self-inflicted wound when I ask
someone to read something I've written or “I left a copy of my
new book on the front porch for you,” and it's still there after a
month. Oh, how I love it!
I
love rejection even more than I loved my father's beatings. My father
beat me and our dogs but I never saw him beat my mother or my sister.
I found it curious watching my father beat our dogs because of the
strange way he had to balance himself as he came down with his left
arm on the dog. My father had a shorter right arm than left arm. He
beat our dogs with wooden clothes hangers. As he came down with the
wooden hanger in his left hand, his little right arm would raise up
to his chest. The dogs would yelp after the first two or three blows
and then curl up resigning themselves to the beating. How noble of
the dog, I thought. As they were beaten their tongues would be out of
their closed mouths just a tiny bit; the same way they looked when
they were corny; the same way they looked when they rode your leg.
Their eyes did not move. All of this acceptance of suffering for an
equivalence of a meal. The dogs weren't suffering. It was what was
required of them to eat. Both the dogs and I didn't feel
rejected when we were beaten. We felt fully accepted by an other. The
dogs took their beating for food and I took mine for love. The dog
knew as long as he was beaten he would eat; I knew as long as I was
beaten I had a home for they would never dare release me.
Maybe,
rejection comes with a knock on the door in a special delivery or in
a policeman’s question. Maybe it comes when a neighbor shouts,
“Nobody likes you! Why don't you move!” You answer back, "That's
why I'm here. You got it right. Thank you." I wouldn’t want to
prevent it. It is the event that defines who I am. A rejection. One
of the love-less rejected. As long as I am rejected, I am winning my
battle against the world. I am a better Christian. If rejection is
the world's only weapon, I could be a greater conqueror of men than
Alexander and a greater builder of temples than Solomon.
Some
say this recurring event is the consequence of our drive to procreate
and continue the race, human race that is; that somehow we pass
this event on in our chromosomes. I have a strand that cries out for
rejection like a friend of mine has a strand to conquer women. My
wife calls him a real pícaro, Spanish
for womanizing
rogue. Some
say it is the consequence of our need to create ourselves as
metaphorical beings symbolized in the clothes we wear, the cars we
drive, or the friends we make. For me there are places that draw
me like a magnet; places where I know that if I go there, I will be
rejected. This is why I say, it is not who we are that is important
but where we are.
I
live in Coatesville, a place of rejection. When most were moving out,
I was moving back. Others say it is a consequence of our desire
to manipulate, control, and persuade through the power of our
will. It could even be a place to guard against ourselves; to
dull our strongest idiosyncrasies. I say it is a consequence of
our desire for freedom and the more we have the more we are rejected
because people are afraid of freedom. The better of us are less
afraid. The greatest servants of mankind are those who liberate us
from the fear of death. Those who are free of the fear of death are
no longer hypothetical people; they are real people.
What
joy to be free from responsibility and free from the bonds that tie
us to things and other people; free from demands, duty, and the onus
of choosing sides in the battle of good and evil. Free from the
recurrence of the event. We can only be free of it if we embrace
it and make it part of our existence like a pollutant in a river. We
swim in the water but never open our eyes or our mouths for fear it
sicken us.
We
fear our freedom because it is a pursuit of nothingness. We slide
into our armor reluctant warriors. We find our freedom when the event
no longer haunts us; when it loses our scent and no longer stalks us
or tracks our footprint; when it stops waiting for us to go with it
even after we have told it over and over again to go away that we
aren’t interested. We avoid it. Our metabolism slows and we
experience erectile dysfunction. We take vitamins, eat dirt
extracting the red ore from between our teeth. Deny it but it is
there all the time parked in our driveway taking our space and
reminding us that our windows are insecure. Our freedom. It sneaks
inside like a draft in winter. It is the reason for living with
death. It is the reason why we embrace ourselves at night in fear
that in the morning we vaporize and awake.
Can
a recurring event occur on a grander scale? Is there such a thing as
eternal recurrence on a global scale? Nietzsche would say yes.
Nietzsche claims the eternal recurrence of the small man, the
mediocre man. In America there is the eternal recurrence of the
racial man. First there was the rejection of the native
American until he was destroyed. Then, we were permitted to
praise him with cigar store indians; and then once he gained his
freedom, the black man, and then he gained stature by making him into
a concrete jockey with a lantern; and now in postmodern America, the
White Man. In what image do we make him?
Yes,
America's eternal recurrence, America's haunting event, is
the continual invention of the racial man. There is no
place for White male progressives of the Boomer Generation in today's
postmodern, identity based politique. Ask Chris Matthews. Not only in
education but in all areas, Boomer White male progressives who have
helped lay the foundation of contemporary progressivism through their
years of unrewarded, unselfish, and ridiculed work in the areas of
critical pedagogy, socialist economics, multiculturalism, and
ethnocentrism are party crashers; uninvited, rejected. To even ask
for an invitation displaces an other whose voice must be heard over
theirs. To come to the party would mean that somebody's piece of cake
will be smaller or somebody's folding chair will be taken. Today
they need to be more careful about where they go because it no longer
matters who they are. We don't need to hear his voice anymore. We
reject it.
Rejection
is the extraordinary man's red badge of resistance. If we aren't
being rejected, we are being accepted. That's where the danger
is...in acceptance. It lulls us into mediocrity. It catches us
napping in the afternoon with no defense when awakened by home
invaders.
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